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July 18, 2012 Dog Cat Food PET TO,YS ASKABOUT DOG TRAINING CLASSES i2902 Washington Street l 760-766-1212 Mon-FrIoPEN8:30SUNDAYS It0 5:00 and Sat 001:0Oto45: O 0 IUnique and ,00ild Fashionedl CANDLES QUILTING BOOKS Eleanor Burns Most Popular Titles GRAPE TRAY WALL ART Downtown Julian - Cole Bldg. 2116 Main Street - Up Stairs  0 Speoking Our Mind Overseas in the US Embassy we were all Americans, united by the Constitution we had sworn to uphold and defend. It wasn't that we didn't like and respect our host country nationals, but we had common values, customs, history and memory that made us comfortable together. It wasn't that there weren't .political differences among us, but these were minor compared to the differences between American and non-American. And those values? A bedrock belief that the people should have the right to change their government peacefully, that all people should be treated equally under the law, that no group should have unlimited power, that all people should have the right to hold and voice their political opinions...values tracing their origins back to the Enlightenment and our Founding Fathers. Values that seemed embedded in the American spirit. Were we wrong about the country we represented? One hopes not but here in California there are people who are fearful about making their political opinions known. Let's put an exclamation point on that and make it local. In Julian there are people who are fearful about making their political opinions known! It is hard to believe this is the United States, but it's true. Why? They are afraid they will lose business, afraid of social ostracism, afraid of....perhaps they aren't sure quite what, of having their vehicle vandalized or having a woman say nasty things in the Post Office parking lot because of a bumper sticker, afraid because 'they' will be 'out to get you'? Whatever, AFRAID! In the United States! In California, let's make that Julian, partisan politics is brought into events that should unite us, like the July 4 parade. In California, let's make that Julian, friends stop speaking to one another because of political differences. In California, let's make that Julian we are...less than we should be. We should be Americans. We should focus on what unites us. It is more important than what keeps us apart. We should put hatred and lies and ugliness aside. Our Founding Fathers disagreed profoundly (and sometimes unpleasantly) yet were able to construct something good and wonderful and enduring. Let's keep that going. Let's do better. All you have to do is agree to disagree and respect our diversity of political opinion. That's what makes us strong. Julian Historical Society Holds Presentations every Fourth Wednesday Of The Month at The Historical Society Building 2133 4th Street 7:00pm Thoughts by Michele Harvey Cleoning Up And Cleoring Out The Julian News 5 Sometimes your life just gets too full of stuff and you need to let le go of things so you can feel free of your stuff. With some luck and IJ planning, your stuff can become useful to someone else. HERE! When you are close to someone who dies, and you are the person who has to look through that person's belongings to decide what to 'nor Behan, instructor 619 540 7212 keep and what to give away, decisions have to be made. If you are behan@hotmail.com lucky, those decisions don't have to be made immediately and they can be made with some mental clarity. Here are 2 cases in point. First case: I was ill with intestinal problems for about 2 years, l had no money for doctor's visits, so I kept convincing myself that I wasn't as sick as I really was. A few weeks ago I had to finally admit that I needed medical help and after visiting the doctor I needed to rest for several weeks. I read and I slept and I looked at the inside of my house from the point of view of someone who is spending lots of time here and not from someone who just works, eats, sleeps and showers here. I really had a lot of time to see and think about my stuff. My belongings. I gained a new perspective and saw myself a bit clearer in the process: When I was growing up, we lived in a nice house and Mom had all of her furniture and crystal and china that officer's wives owned back then, but we didn't have many extras. My Dad, a commander of a B-29 bomber, died in the Korean War. About a year after my Dad's death, his Status changed from missing in action to dead. At that time my mother finally began receiving a widow's pension that paid her house payment. She still needed to work to pay all of the bills, buy food and give us all the extras she could afford, like the occasional drive-in movie or weekend picnic. By the age of eleven, my older sister, younger brother and I all worked to earn our own spending money. By the time I entered high school, I made all of my own clothes except those I wore for special occasions. My first marriage was to a man who was very self centered, who questioned every cent that I spent on myself, though he never was bothered by all the shirts I made for him including his western style wedding shirt or the curtains I made for all of our windows. My second marriage was to a man who literally didn't care about money. He threw it away as quickly as it got into the bank, often before I could pay our bills. Struggling against his spending was a very wearisome way to live. Because of my childhood and the attitudes of my two husbands, I began collecting stuff. My sense of self worth began wrapping itself around my possessions. I don't have huge collections of things. I never did. Without any hope of alimony or financial support, each time I,divorced, I had to sell many of my things, much of them inherited, to pay my bills. Even now, many years later, I wake up some nights thinking about the things I loved that I had to sell to keep a comfortable home for me and for my children. I know I did what I had to do, but I can still picture many of the furnishings in my Mom's house and in my grandparent's house that I inherited and later had to sell for my financial survival. I've lived through ,evacuations of the Cedar Fire in 2003 and through the Wild Fires of 2007. Evacuating is incrediblymentally exhausting; what to take, what to leave behind, assuming we have time for these decisions, is just too much responsibility for most of us. At those desperate times it's so easy to fall apart emotionally. Now I've reached a time and a mental place in my life where I don't want to cling to possessions. I want to evacuate, if necessary, without guilt for leaving anything behind that I will miss. I own a store where I sell new things, old things and some new things that look old. My own stuff is gradually making its way in to my store. I've decided that anything I own that has been sitting in a closet or anything I own that collects dust needs a new home. I have three children, but their lifestyles are so different from mine that I don't believe any of them will ever want the things I have, sol won't burden them with guilt over not wanting my possessions when i'm gone. I'm clearing things out by putting them for sale in my store. Second case: My aunt died a year ago last January. My cousin who lived with, and cared for her mother in her last years was responsible for sorting through her mother's things. Initially papers had to be gone through. Legal papers and other important papers were first on her list, then other paperwork needed to be sorted and categorized and Sue had to decide which papers to keep and which ones could be tossed. Having done that in a timely way, she took her time deciding what to do with other things of her mothers. I'm sure she passed some things on to the grandchildren. However, what impressed me the most about my cousin Sue was her decisions about all the books and art prints her mother, a retired teacher owned. I've known plenty of people who throw away so many useful things that it sickens me to think about useful things ending up in dumpsters where no one will ever again get any use or enjoyment from them. Sue has donated boxes of books to The Bookman charity which to date has donated over 8 million books worldwide and has an interesting history www.thebookman.org 3727 El Cajon Boulevard San Diego, CA 92105 (619) 521-9830 Her mother worked with a man who is a Crow Indian. He volunteered summers on the Crow nation in Montana. Sue sent Smithsonian prints to the Crow Nation feeling that they could use them in their schools. That was very thoughtful and I'm sure it was a nice surprise to them. I've written so many times about organizing possessions. I've written about giving things to others, donating things that aren't adding anything particularly positive to our lives and giving away dust collectors. Now, I believe I've written about the same subject from 2 different perspectives. In fifty years that I've worked with the public, many people have said that they didn't know what they would do with their precious belongings. They are often certain that their children don't want them, yet they just don't know what to do with their treasures. Here I propose that we sell or give things away before we die, so we can know for certain that our treasures have new loving homes. These are my thoughts. Monday & Friday 6pro Julian Town Hall WE ACCEPT Groceries. Fresh Produce. Sundries Beer. Wine. Liquor Dry Cleaning. Lotto. Scratchers Full Service "Best in the County" Meat Department U.S.D.A. Choice Bee[ Buffalo Meat Special and Holiday Orders, Cut to your Specifications OPEN DALLY 6a.m. TO 8p.m. POPE TREE SERVICE All Your Tree Service Needs Commercial Wedding Day For Jenn And Dylan Jennifer Rainey and Dylan Brehm became Mr. & Mrs. on June 23, 2012 surrounded by 120 family and friends at the scenic Sentenac Ranch. It was a beautiful day in Julian and according to the bride and groom "the best day of my life." January. So many people contributed to this wonderful day. A special thanks to Mike Ellis, owner of Sen{enac Ranch, John Little Catering, Candied Apple and DJ Doug. The couple wishes to thank everyone for their love and support. (