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The Julian News 7 November 21, 2018 continued on page 13 From The Supervisor’s Desk Notes from Supervisor Dianne Jacob Help on the home front: My colleagues on the Board of Supervisors recently joined me in stepping up the development of more affordable housing. We agreed to award more than $13 million to six projects that will result in over 450 new homes for low-income seniors, veterans and others. The project list includes Villa de Vida, a 54-unit housing complex planned in Poway for those with developmental disabilities. Many low-income veterans, seniors and families struggle to keep a roof over their heads. These awards are the latest step in our efforts to address this crisis. Stop sex trafficking: State lawmakers recently gave local law enforcement and others additional tools to combat human trafficking. A new state law requires the lodging industry to train employees on how to identify and interact with victims of sex exploitation, while another gives the District Attorney’s Office the ability to seek increased monetary judgements for victims in civil cases. Sex trafficking, often involving young women and girls, remains rampant in our region. I will continue to do all I can to fight it. Local heroes: It’s always great to honor community leaders for all their great deeds. Among those to recently receive a county proclamation is Dee Dean, who wrapped up a 20-year run as editor of the East County Herald. Dee has been active with the Kiwanis Club, Stoney's Kids, Multiple Sclerosis Society and many other groups. She has done all this while dealing with her own serious medical challenges. Thank you, Dee, and thanks to all who work so hard to make East County an even better place. For more District 2 news, go to www.diannejacob.com or follow me on Facebook and Twitter. If I can assist with a county issue, please call my office at 619-531-5522 or email dianne.jacob@sdcounty. ca.gov Have a great East County day! Dianne Ramona Food and Clothes Closet Brand New and Gently Used Items 50% off One regularly priced item with this ad Exp. 12-31-18 JN 773 Main Street, Ramona 760-789-4458 Not for profit 501(c)(3) tax id# 33-005939 since 1983 Julian Lines Up To Recycle On Saturday the County Household Hazardous Waste and Electronics disposal/recycling event took over the NorthEast end of the library parking lot and collected old paint, dead TV’s, once productive computers and other materials unfit for the land fill. The actual amount of stuff collected was not available, 160 cars came through the event to drop their “trash” and make their home and property safer for the effort. The County schedules these events on a semi annual basis, so the next one could be 2020 - those who did not take advantage will have to take their hazrdous material to a collection site somewhere down the hill for awhile. When the closing time came at 2pm the collected materials where loaded up into a pair of semi-trailers and taken away, it will all be sorted and safely disposed of, or recycled in possible. You can find out more on where and when these events take place by calling 1-877-R-1-EARTH (1-877-713-2784) or visit: www.sdhhw.org . The Julian Junior High Community Service Elective class was able to take a field trip locally to the Methodist Church to help them with their Thanksgiving Mountain Mana food bags that get distributed to many in need in the surrounding areas. Seventeen sixth and seventh graders went to help out the members of the Methodist Church with their local food bank to get ready to serve those that need a little extra this holiday season. It was such a great opportunity for the junior high kids to learn about service and giving back to others. Being selfless is a wonderful character trait that young people need to see in action and the older generation gave the junior high kids first hand experience. They helped unpack boxes of peanut butter, unload crates of bread, weigh onions, bag pears and apples, and were able to really help out those in need. The kids had such a wonderful time with helping that they wished that they could do it everyday, but knew how fortunate they were to have a school that supports them with giving back to our local community and promoting such a positive and happy school culture and climate. There are many ways that we can help out everyday - we can pick up trash, open doors for others, give a helping hand, say thank you, and volunteer with local organizations especially during the holiday season. Junior High Leaders Leaders, and memories, plus Disneyland... Oh my! On November 8th, 2018 in the early morning hours, the Julian Junior High ASB officers and assistants set off for an epic adventure to a leadership conference at the Convention Center in Anaheim, California. At 4:45am, the leaders of tomorrow began to arrive in the parking lot of the junior high to set off to Los Angels. 21 bright and amazing junior highers made the commitment to get up and show up to attend the LASC - one of the largest middle school ASB leadership conferences. The students got a chance to attend different break-out sessions to be able to learn more about promoting kindness, encouraging their peers, how to throw better spirit activities and dances, and how to promote a school climate and school culture that cultivates a positive school environment. It was amazing to see so many youth get excited to lead. They were encouraged to step out of their comfort zones and meet other students from all over California. The theme was "Coco" the beloved Disney animated movie and the students were encouraged to "lead" long after the conference was over. The students got to take classes like, "Making Your Dances Worth Remembering, You Matter!, Capture the Spirit, and Leading with Purpose" to name a few that were all taught by incredible inspirational speakers. The keynote speaker for the entire conference was Houston Kraft who founded Character Strong which promotes cultivating a climate and culture that puts great focus on a growth mindset of fostering leadership skills, positive attitudes, and helping kids as well as teachers find their purpose and to build better relationships. Houston talked about helping kids develop social and emotional skills as well as setting goals and to live memorable lives. He also reminded the students that the teachers are the "climate control" where they set the climate on campus, they (the teachers) are the weather makers for attitude, for change, for the "climate" and culture on the campus, so teachers have a huge responsibility to help students find their purpose and build better and more positive relationships. He said that we need more kindness on campus and that we need to be reminded more than we need to be taught about when it comes to having a positive attitude - we need to be examples on campus of kindness and good relationships. "Put your focus on the little things daily and the big things get better" - kids need to fee safe, and that they belong, and accepted and that should be the school climate and the culture should be kindness. Overall, the junior high students got to learn a lot about leadership and how to lead. They soaked it up and brought back a lot of great ideas and plan to put many into action as the school year goes on. After the conference, the ASB leadership team got to enjoy a day at Disneyland and build better relationships with the leadership team and make really amazing memories. Houston also said that, "Personality is a gift, character is a habit" and they were reminded to practice the art of compliments, kindness, and having a positive attitude. To Serve•To Help•To Volunteer 12 Tips For Raising Truthful Kids Parents rate honesty as the quality they most want to teach their children. We asked the experts for their best advice for raising honest kids. by Charity Ferreira Brace yourself for the cold, hard truth: all kids lie. They do it for many of the same reasons adults do: to avoid getting into trouble, to avoid hurting another person’s feelings, or to make themselves look better. The ability to tell a lie develops early — as young as 2½ for some kids — and it’s a normal and important stage of kids’ cognitive and social development. By age 4, all kids lie; by age 6, some estimates are that kids lie as often as once an hour. (And if you’re thinking, ‘Not my kid!’ note that research shows parents score little better than chance in determining whether or not their child is telling a lie!) How can you convey to your preschooler the difference between the truth and the whoppers she tells you about her day? Or teach your elementary school-aged child that it’s better to come clean about having made a mistake? Or get your teen to be honest with you about where they were on Friday night? We asked experts — researchers, child development specialists, and psychologists — for their advice on teaching kids the value of honesty at every stage. 1. Model honesty It sounds obvious, but if you don’t want your kids to lie to you, don’t lie to them, and don’t let them hear you telling lies. “It’s one thing to say to kids that honesty is important, but then if they see you lying, it sends a mixed message,” says Victoria Talwar, associate professor in the Department of Educational and Counseling Psychology at McGill University in Montreal and a leading researcher on kids and lying. It’s surely less effort to say, “I don’t have any money with me” than to explain to your child that they can’t have ice cream because they’ve already had a sweet treat that day or because it’s too close to dinner. Or to tell the fundraiser on the phone that you aren’t interested in donating rather than saying you already did. But over time, so-called “little white lies” teach your child that dishonesty is okay in some situations — and leaves them to interpret which situations those are. If you want your child to grow up with the belief that honesty is the best policy, do your best to live by that credo, too. 2. Don’t set them up Particularly for preschool- aged kids, one way to deter lying is simply by not inviting them to. When you see your child with a juice-stained lip and an overturned bottle on the table, there’s no need to ask, “Did you spill this juice?” Kids this age will lie out of a desire to avoid getting into trouble, says Dr. Peter Stavinoha, a clinical neuropsychologist for the Center for Pediatric Psychiatry at Children’s Medical Center of Dallas. ”If you know they did it, don’t ask! If you ask, you’re giving them the option to lie. So they lie, and then you get upset about that, and now there’s two things where there used to be only one,” Stavinoha says. “Looks like you spilled some juice. Let’s clean it up together,” keeps things focused on the issue at hand. And if you’re not sure who broke the vase, or which sibling is lying about it, Stavinoha says, go straight to the consequence. “Don’t engage with the question of did they break it or which child broke it. Focus on what you want accomplished. ‘We have a mess here. I’m asking you both to clean it up.’ You’re showing them that there’s no positive consequence for denying responsibility.” 3. Tell positive stories In a study led by University of Toronto psychologist Kang Lee, researchers including Talwar found that kids ages 3 to 7 who heard the story of George Washington and the Cherry Tree, which illustrates a positive consequence of honesty (George is praised for telling the truth), were much more likely to tell the truth than kids who heard the story of the Boy Who Cried Wolf, which illustrates a negative consequence of lying (the shepherd repeatedly calls for help as a prank, but the one time he really needs help, the villagers don’t come to his rescue). “We talk about lying being bad, but we don’t highlight the alternative behavior. Kids need examples for how to behave in situations where lying might be easier, stories that show how to be honest, what does that look like? Those are important messages,” says Talwar. For older kids, talking about the honesty of the characters in the books they’re reading can provoke inspiring and instructive discussion. 4. Ask for a promise If you need a straight answer about something you’re concerned about, such as an incident at school, asking your child to promise to tell you the truth before asking them a question increases the chances that they will, studies suggest. But note that this strategy is not a guarantee, and it should be used sparingly so that you don’t wear it out. “You don’t want to overuse this one or it may lose its efficacy,” says Angela Crossman, professor and chair of the Department of Psychology at the John Jay College of Criminal Justice at City University of New York. And as Talwar notes, promises tend to feel more binding to younger kids. 5. Say truth-telling makes you happy Young children, under the age of 8 or so, are very motivated to please authority figures, says Talwar. Her research shows that telling kids that you’ll be happy with them if they tell the truth increases the likelihood they’ll be straight with you. Tweens and teens, she notes, tend to care somewhat less about pleasing authority figures and more about their own internal sense of what’s right. (Another study found that telling 9- to 11-year- olds that they would feel good about themselves if they told the truth decreased the chances they would tell a lie.) At all ages, look for opportunities to make your child feel good about being trustworthy. 6. Teach tact Kids learn early — from their parents — how to lie for the sake of politeness or to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. “Thanks, this book looks great,” instead of, “I already have this book!” or “I can’t play because I’m busy,” instead of “I don’t like playing with you!” Researchers call these kinds of lies “prosocial” because they smooth our interactions with others. But being honest does not have to equal being rude or hurtful. The key, says Talwar, is to balance honesty with consideration for the other person’s feelings. “We want to teach our children to be honest but we want to teach them to be kind as well. We need to teach honesty in a way that potentially helps others rather than potentially hurts others,” says Talwar. In the case of the book, this might mean saying it’s an author they like, or expressing appreciation for the thought that